Dear Bald Man,
My boyfriend of a little under a year is going to a bachelors party in Vegas in about a month. The other day, he came out and asked if it would be ok for him to have a one-night stand with someone while he is out there.
I am beside myself about this. I feel like if I say no, he may do it anyway and not tell me. If I say yes, then I am just saying it is ok for him to cheat. I am totally unsure what to do, please help!
Sincerely,
Don’t Want to be a Cuckold
Hi Cuckold…
I am going to assume that you are young (under 25) given the context of your question. I think you need to either break up with this dude or re-define your whole relationship. If he feels the need to cheat this early in the relationship, it says he is not really committed. And really you should not be either.
Unless you really want to get married and have kids at your age, you should just avoid real commitment for the time being, especially with this type of guy. The positive thing here is that he was honest in what he wanted to do. The issue is that you obviously are not really ok with this happening, and if you say no you will have no way of knowing if he acts on his impulses behind your back.
To be honest I don’t really know what the fuck this guy is thinking. There really is no good outcome from his question. Either you are totally ok with it, which basically means you want something of an open relationship. If that is the case he should just propose that. If you are not ok with it, you will either say no and he is back where he started, or you will say yes begrudgingly and he is making you unhappy. Now that I think of it he sounds pretty dumb, and you should lean toward breaking it off. If you decide to continue this relationship, I would only do so if it is just for casual sex.
-Bald Man
P.S. – Use protection.
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