Hi Bald Man
My husband and I have a 27 year old living at home still. He has a part time job and pays for his own gas, entertainment and cell phone. We pay for all of his other expenses.
He sleeps in until nearly noon each morning. He is nice to be around, but will only really help around the house if we ask him to multiple times. If he got a full-time job or another part time one we would feel easier about his ability to exist without us taking care of him.
How can I make him hear me that he needs to be more serious about life? He got a college degree which seems useless, and now plans to get a two-year degree that will get him a career, but we think he has to change his habits so he can sleep at night and get up in the morning. He often stays up late online and talking with his friends. Can you add your voice to ours?
— Stressed out Mother
Hello Mother,
What are you even doing? You need to send a message immediately. First off, he feels like he can skate by with a part-time job because you enable him to do so. He is 27. He is too old to be on your health insurance, do you pay for his for him?
Your son is in a state of arrested development. He should be working full time or more and making as much money as he can now to start saving for a house, retirement, etc. Your enabling him is doing him no favors at all. You need to stop paying his bills and start charging rent. I would give him 1-2 months maximum and then drop the hammer.
Sincerely,
Bald Man
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