Hi Bald Man
I am nearing the end of college and dating a guy with a couple of kids. I don’t have any. We are thinking of moving in together but honestly I don’t want his kids living with us. He currently has joint custody, and taking on the responsibility of having 2 kids live with us part-time would make me a part-time mom. I don’t think I can handle that responsibility, especially with school. I have brought up the idea of them living with their mom full time when we move in together (while I am still in school), and he was not receptive to that idea. In fact he got kind of angry with me. Is this something I should have a say in?
— Don’t want to be a Mom Yet
Hi Mom-
The short answer here is no, this is not something you have a say in. They are his kids. Presumably he went through all kinds of court trouble to get the joint custody situation set up in the first place, so this could place future custody in jeopardy.
I would really question why you are with this guy if you are not ready to be a mom yet. I am assuming you are young because you are still in college. Why tie yourself down? Aren’t there any guys you could date that don’t have any kids?
In any case, definitely don’t move in with this guy. Finish college, find a job, then think about real commitment. You will probably find when you are done that your priorities change, and if you get committed too early you will regret it.
-Bald Man
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