Hello Bald Man,
In the last 3 months I have been proposed to by two men. They are are polar opposites. One of them is a fun, sensitive and emotionally available man works but does not make a lot of money. The other is exciting and powerful and makes a ton of money by comparison. I have fun with him but not on the level as the first guy, and his personality does come with some ego issues.
How do I decide which guy I should marry?
Sincerely,
Doubly Proposed
Hello Proposed,
You need to start by asking you how you got into a situation where you have two men that, within a short period, think it is appropriate to ask you to marry them. This is not a normal occurrence for most people, and is a sign that if you pick one of them the marriage is unlikely to succeed.
Normally people propose when they are relatively certain that the person they are proposing to will say yes. In your case, I am guessing these guys don’t even really know that you are not dating them exclusively.
This is really a terrible question to be asking to an advice columnist, particularly with such limited information. You only really gave meme-level information on these fine gents. Given that, you should probably decline both offers. Don’t date anyone exclusively for a while, and be honest with the people you are dating so as not to lead them into a position where they are proposing when you haven’t even stopped dating other people. In time, you will find the right person.
If you absolutely must marry one of these two men, go with the guy who makes the money. You will probably end up divorced anyway, and marrying that guy will at least leave you in a better financial position afterwards.
Sincerely,
Bald Man
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